Take a look around.....

It amazes me how so many people don't realize how their environment affects their attitude.The more negativity that you surround yourself with, the more negative you will become.Whether it be negative people,angry music or violent movies.The more of these things we are subjected to, the more normal it becomes to us.It is as simple as the people you choose to be friends with on Facebook.I have seen friends post a status describing a hard time they are going through, and their "friends", instead of trying to be supportive and help them get through it, they add to the trouble by telling about their problems and describing how pissed off they are at the world.Trying to solve a problem with negativity and anger has never accomplished anything.

I am speaking from experience, for the longest time I was a very negative person. I became so jaded from watching violently disgusting movies, that when I saw something terrible in real life it didn't even affect me.I carried around so much hatred for certain groups of people, just because I grew up hearing family members voice their opinions.It really is scary how much we can be like robots, being unknowingly programed to be hateful or negative just by listening to the things around us.I really fear for the next generation. I watched a few music videos from some bands that my 15 year old daughters boyfriend listens too. I have to admit it is some of the most disturbing music I have ever heard. The videos were filmed so dark and depressing, it reminded me of someones nightmare.I really don't see how watching something like that can make anyone feel anything but angry or depressed.Then we have RAP, which I really don't consider music at all, it's just a bunch of profanity laced hatred towards anything that's in authority. Where have all the musicians and singers gone that tried and spread a good message ? This world needs a Bob Marley type more then ever.

I don't want to sound like I am being preachy. We all have the right to listen to, watch and be friends with whom ever we want. But if you don't like being angry or miserable any more, you really need to take notice to the things you allow in your life.Take notice to the message that is being sent out in the songs on your i-pod, try and take notice of all that unnecessary violence in that movie you just watched and last but not least open your eyes to how negative some people you know can be.Negativity creates nothing, but more Negativity, and what good has that ever done anyone.All it does is cloud our vision of how great life can be, of how Happy we all can be.Stop letting the messages and actions of others program you.Take a good look inside yourself and find that Positive Happy person inside. You'll be so thankful that you did. Blessings and Love to all.

Forgiveness

Forgiveness is not always an easy thing to do.Whether it is forgiving someone who has hurt you, or maybe it is forgiving yourself for making a bad decision.Whatever the case may be, carrying around resentment wears you down, like a river wears down the rocks in runs over.Regardless of whether the pain caused to you was accidental or on purpose, by not forgiving , you are inadvertently allowing others to continue to hurt you.You are allowing that person to determine how you feel and act. Holding onto anger and resentment makes you a bitter and miserable person.The old saying goes "It's better to forgive and forget", I not really sure which one is harder.But I do believe that it is almost impossible to forget, unless you first forgive.

What if the person you can't forgive is yourself, how damaging is that? So you have made a mistake or maybe used poor judgment, it caused you some sort of pain or suffering, but instead of learning from it and letting it go, you continue to punish yourself.What good will that ever do? We are only human, we all make mistakes. But not learning from your mistakes is just as foolish, as not forgiving yourself for making them.I have made my fair share of mistakes in life, but I have accepted them and moved on. I have also learned how to forgive others who have hurt me. It was like a huge heavy weight had been lifted off my chest.

Life is all about learning the lessons that are put in front of you.They say that you have to first lose, before you can ever really enjoy winning, and the same goes with Happiness. You have to first know sadness before you can know how to be really Happy.One of the major steps towards Happiness is Forgiveness. Don't carry around resentment and anger, instead transform it into forgiveness and compassion.You deserve to be Happy, we all do. The thing that most people don't understand is that, we hold the key to our own Happiness, in our hands.It is up to us to let go of the negativity and concentrate on the good things in our lives.Once you can do that, you are on your way to living the life ,we all wish to have.Love your life and it will Love you back. Blessings and Love to all.

Trust

Trust is one of the most intimate gifts we can bestow on another.Without it relationships can become strained and friendships are shallow.How can we ever say we care for someone unless we can also say that we trust them fully?Why is it so hard for some people to put their trust in others?There are different reasons why some people can't bring themselves to Trust.Maybe they Trusted someone who they cared about and that person betrayed them.Maybe they saw their friends get their hearts broken and decided they wouldn't let that happen to them, or maybe they themselves betrayed someones trust and they are worried about that person doing the same.Regardless of the reasons, if you never Trust others, then how will you ever have someone close to you?

Putting your Trust in another is a wonderful sign of respect. You are giving someone the ability to hurt you, but showing them that you have enough Faith in them not to. Trust is needed for any kind of relationship to have a chance to grow.When you show or tell someone who cares for you that you don't Trust them, you are basically telling them that you don't think to highly of them, that you have no faith in them. You are telling them that you see them a the type of person who would hurt you, and that is a hurtful message to send out.I have done my fair share of betraying people's Trust in my life, and it is something that I wish I could take back. I saw how much it hurt those people when they found out.I have also had my Trust betrayed and have been on the receiving end of the hurt.But I would never let my past experiences stop me from putting my Trust into others.Just because someone may have betrayed you doesn't mean they will do it again. Just because you have been betrayed by some doesn't mean everyone will, and just because you have betrayed someone ,it doesn't mean they will do it in return.

We can't live our lives being afraid of people hurting us.When we build walls around ourselves to keep from getting hurt, those walls also keep out any chance of finding real Happiness.Only by putting your Trust in others will you find out who are the ones worthy of keeping around.It's like when we were children and we would go outside to blow bubbles, we didn't blow them with the expectations of seeing them POP. We blew them to watch and see how long and how far they would float. Don't live your life waiting for bad things to happen to you,for your bubbles to pop.Enjoy your life and don't be afraid of what might never happen.Blessings and Love to all.